About
There may be some readers who flit over the pages and think “Not another abuse survivor story!”
Well, yes, it is.
But, this time, it’s mine……..
A blog about being on my own at the age of 47. The trials and triumphs of making me an independent woman.
It’s about the abuse I went through at the hands of an alcoholic/drug addicted husband.
It’s about homesteading for 8 years and how that was supposed to fix my husband and make everything all better.
The homesteading became a turning point for me, showing me who I can be, making me into the person I am today.
I grew from that experience–toughened up physically and emotionally and Got Out!
I hope to enlighten others before they make the same mistakes I did.
If you’d like to read my story in order, please go to This Page.
You can find the blog Here.
Wow!
Amazing. Thank you for taking your own experience and helping others heal.
So many do not “get out”.
Bravo to you!
Homesteading is hard, but what you have done is even harder.
Thank you, Lea!
I hope to help others get out by using this blog as an example that it can be done–under the right circumstances. Not all victims have (or take) the opportunity that I had.
I haven’t touched on the Homesteading part as I’m trying to do this in some kind of chronological order but I will get to it.
i have just found your site today. so much of what you’ve written resonates so powerfully with where i have been – and i am so glad you are posting all of this for the benefit of others!
to “Get Out” is one of the hardest things many of us have done, and it is also perhaps one of the most important decisions we have ever made. consider this a virtual hug from one survivor to another!
I love your site. Keep it up !
Barbara,
I have read a few of the entries and had to stop. It will take me sometime to read all the entries as I was over come by emotion. You truly have an inspiring story. It gives me an insight on the trials and tribulation of others. You are an amazing woman.
Nicole, thank you for that ‘hug’!!
Nancy, thank you for your nice comment. I do not feel ‘amazing’, I just feel that I did what I had to do to save my sanity! Thank you for visiting my site! I certainly enjoy yours!
Barbara,
There’s so much I would like to say, but can’t, because I don’t know where to begin. Your story about surviving an abusive relationship can be an inspiration for others in similar situations. Then there are those, that have never experienced anything close to what you have described, and by sharing your experience it may open our eyes, that there are two sides to every coin.
In all honesty, Barbara, with all you have to offer, perhaps you should explore the possibility of writing a book.
Nancy
Nancy, I’ve been told that before–that I should write a book of my experience–and I am flattered! It would be a fairly short book unless I really fleshed it out and I don’t know if I have the expertise to do that. I’m just telling my story and hope it helps even one person to avoid what I went through. Thank you!!!
Hi Barbara,
I met a fellow blogger who may find many things to share with you and perhaps another perspective for both of you. I hope you will check out her new blog and perhaps find a common strength in your sharing.
http://groundy.wordpress.com/
As always,
Thanks Barbara, for being who you are!
Lea
Wow! Thanks Lea! The blog looks very interesting to me! I will be reading through it today.
Hi!
You have so much on here that I feel like I am reading my own thoughs.. sometimes so far fetched you wonder if anyone else could believe this happened to you or are you just nuts.
Groundy, I’m sorry you went through what I went through.
Oh, I had many tell me I was making it up, that I was crazy! They know better now!
Barbara,
This is amazing and I know our paths have crossed before.
You have taught me a lot and I will and do refer to this a lot,
to remind me what is important in how others treat me, how I treat myself,
and how I treat others…..such as you.
Hugs,
Mary Beth (fr PS)